How to Write the Perfect Best Man’s Speech
A refined guide to charm, wit and unforgettable moments
At The Hackney, we’ve hosted over 300+ weddings - each one entirely unique, yet all brimming with love, celebration, and stories shared around candlelit tables. And if there’s one moment that always captures hearts (and sometimes tears), it’s the best man’s speech.
We’ve heard them all - the brilliantly funny, the deeply moving, the ones that had the whole room roaring with laughter, and yes, a few that ran just a little too long…
So, whether you’re feeling the pressure or don’t know where to start, we’ve curated a guide to help you write a best man’s speech that feels thoughtful, stylish, and unforgettable - just like the day itself.
1. Start With a Strong Structure
The best speeches flow effortlessly - and it all begins with a clear, elegant framework:
- Opening & Icebreaker: A charming line to set the tone, followed by a brief introduction.
- Talk About the Groom: Share memorable moments - humorous, but never humiliating.
- Celebrate the Couple: Reflect on their relationship, and how they bring out the best in each other.
- Sincere Moment: Something heartfelt and genuine that captures why this day matters.
- The Toast: End with a classic toast, delivered with warmth and confidence.
2. Keep It Polished & Pithy
You’re not delivering a TED Talk - keep it to around 6 to 8 minutes. Enough to entertain, not enough to outshine the champagne.
3. Humour with Heart
Wit is welcome, but keep it tasteful. Think cleverly curated stories, not crude anecdotes. The goal? Make guests of all ages laugh, not wince.
4. Know Your Audience
This isn’t just about the groom. You’re speaking to a room filled with people who love both halves of the couple. Bring in reflections about the bride, the relationship, and what makes them shine together.
5. Practise with Purpose
Deliver it with presence. Practise aloud, use cue cards if needed, and pace yourself. Slow, steady and sincere wins the day.
6. Add a Touch of Poetry or Prose
If you’re that way inclined, include a quote, lyric or toast that sums up love, loyalty and friendship. A few favourites we’ve heard at The Hackney:
“To love, laughter and a lifetime of mischief.”
“Here’s to the nights we’ll never forget, with the people we’ll always remember.”
“May their love be modern enough to survive the times, but old-fashioned enough to last forever.”
Final Thoughts
At The Hackney, we know how powerful words can be. We’ve witnessed speeches that have echoed in the hearts of guests long after the last glass was raised.
So write with love, speak with purpose, and above all - enjoy the moment. After all, it’s a privilege to be part of someone’s story.
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